The More The Quieter

Most of event, for example party, sleepover, camping, etc, will be more enjoyable if there are more people gathered in one place. It is obvious that certain agenda, with just only a few people, is not quite exciting. They want to have fun with each other, laughing, enjoy the food, talking, and much more activity that can be done with many people. They said that "the more, the merrier". However, this phrases is not really match with me.

 I'm not interested to follow an activity with more people. It is not about dislike the people, the agenda, and the place. It is because I find myself fun to have an activity in pairs. Beside my introvert character, here are my "stRangers" reasons of why I prefer pair activity to group activity.

1. Change myself into a statue

People knew that most (not all) introvert will be a statue in a group activity. That is also happened to me, I will act passively as an observer.  However, as I previously stated, I'm not hate the people, I just want to observe everything they did as my references of how to act in many people. 

2. Fair? 

 When I have a chat with more than one person, sometimes I felt that the chat is not fair. I mean, when I talked with one person, I felt kind of guilty to let one person just observe our chatting and I'm just worried that this person will be ignored. Or, is this happened because I'm worried too much?

3. Closer

Do not confused if my friends will see my other self if they are talk with me in pairs. I will act as the listener, often asks them personally, sharing thoughts, and everything that they can't see it if we have a chat in group. I want to build a closer relation by talking like this, it is more enjoyable and I can get many positive things from my speaking partner. I'll turn myself into a childish person, and of course as a "watcher", if I have a chat in group.

For the prior reasons, the thing that I got is one should act appropriately in an appropriate time, place, and in front of appropriate person. Good luck for myself and for the great readers to spare their time to read my note.